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E started a week (4 days) at The Telling Room today. After breakfast, he confided in me, in a very grownup way, that he was scared to go "somewhere new" (basically because of his awful experience at Camp Ketcha last year). I hugged him and promised him that if it was anything like Ketcha (which it won't be) that I would pull him out immediately. Then I told him about times I was scared doing new things, and praised him mightily for talking to me about the way he feels.

At lunch I got a nice note from the Executive Director telling me that E was settling in well. So, that's reassuring. We'll see what the end of the day brings.

Ten days until he turns 8. For his birthday, I very much wanted to build him a simple outdoor playhouse, and we pulled together a $500 budget to build it ... which turns out to be not nearly enough. Josh is lobbying hard for us not to do it at all, on the theory that we'll never be able to finish it and it will set there, unused and unfinished forever. He's been quietly, but firmly, completely negative about this project from start to finish, and it's starting to grate on me. Our back yard is tiny, and a wasteland (no room for a swingset, for example, because there isn't enough arc for the swing), so its no wonder that E never wants to be outside. But, I have to clearly admit that he's probably right. I have to make up my mind today, though, so we can get the materials together to build on Sunday, if build we are indeed going to do.

Date: 2014-07-01 01:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
My father built my kids a playhouse. They never ever use it. I built my kids a very expensive redwood swing set. They play only in the sand I used on the ground around it.

So don't feel bad if you don't get around to building it.

Date: 2014-07-01 09:37 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I agree that in theory it sounds like a wonderful idea. Your commitment to E's happiness is absolute, and wonderful to see. I was built a playhouse and it only served as a place for me to hide. E is a very different child than myself, but I've not ever known someone who didn't have a similar experience.

Just my 2 cents

Date: 2014-07-01 01:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Third comment along the same lines. We built the boys a simple fort in the back. My mother gave us the money to do it, because at the time I didn't have it to spare. Except for an occasional water fight, it really never got used - even though I have three kids and you'd think someone would want to escape there. It's a fort for goodness sake.

The single seat swing we have hanging off the tree in the front yard got a lot more use. If you have a strong enough tree limb in the back, a rope swing might be a thought. I'm trying to figure out how to convert the seat swing to a rope swing.

Date: 2014-07-01 05:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
We built our own fort/playhouse using a downed tree limb and a bunch of sticks and leaves. That was satisfying, but like the others, all I did was camp out in it. I don't think building something out there will make him want to play outside.

Date: 2014-07-01 06:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Let me suggest, instead, getting a copy of this book:

Housebuilding for Children: Step-by-Step Plans for Houses Children Can Build Themselves

Now, we are not organized enough to actually do this, but I think you are. The advantage is that you can do it *with* E, and it will not require the participation of another adult to make it happen.

Starting a project that requires a lot of physical participation with a partner adult who is firmly negative about it is the way to insanity, I've found. Yes, we did eventually build Miss B. her bed (or mostly build it) but it used up therblings I could have used for something else.

Date: 2014-07-02 04:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
That looks lovely!

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